You raise me up..

The title above pretty gives the clue what I’m going to talk about today..my parents..

"And your Lord has commanded that you shall not serve (any) but Him, and goodness to your parents. If either or both of them reach old age with you, say not to them (so much as) "Ugh" nor chide them, and speak to them a generous word. And make yourself submissively gentle to them with compassion, and say: O my Lord! Have compassion on them, as they brought me up (when I was) little." Noble Qur'an (17:23-24)


Each and every day I am grateful to my parents who have sacrificed a lot to raise me up throughout my life. To me,my parents are my heroes. Because of everything they’ve accomplished. The sacrifices. My parents didn’t think of themselves, because had they thought of themselves. And it worked, and their dreams came true, and I see how proud they are.”

“I always had this sense of wanting to give back. I struggled very hard to make them proud of me..I think all of us kids – we’ve actually talked about it – we want our parents to be proud of us, because we saw the sacrifice that they made for us, we live with it every day. You know, they gave up so much for us.

Something to reflect....

That was in 2007 isn’t it? I was in my 2nd year in university. All I can still remember is, that was the most thrilling years in my life. I didn’t perform much and I didn’t know why I was so dumb to waste my time in university not struggling hard. I was busy lazing around.I was busy with societies and paying around.. I was at the lowest phase of my life in term of everything. Kinda a bit lost but still striving to improve myself in terms of study. The main reason was I got too carried away being in love with my ex bf. Although once in a while I could sense we were not suitable for each other but still I stayed in the relationship because I thought love need sacrifices and I didn’t dare to hurt him. But it turned out he was the one who decided to dump me. It was during the beginning of the year. Well I can't tell exactly what is happening between us...It is not allowed to tell the past..just let by gone be by gone ... The incident eventually made me hurt. To cut the story short, I made big mistake but luckily Allah Knows best... That was going on for good 3 months until one day I became so tired with all of that and was at the point of started to dreadfully hating him. I just realized that why I was being so stupid to put myself with all the troubles when he never care about me at all. That was when I started to hate him so much and kept praying that if only I never met him before. Later… it was during the middle of the semester that I got to contact my hubby indirectly via my best friend. It was almost during the end of the year. It all happening so fast and I am so grateful for what had happened between me and my exbf. My exbf did try to befriend me but I said to him thanks alot. It was really a blessing in disguise since actually God had a better plan for me...Allah maha mengetahui segala-galanya..walau sebesar zarah,percayalah semuanya dalam genggaman ALLAH. He blessed me with the most amazing person as my other half who will always loves me back unconditionally and appreciates my presence in his life. The rest is history :) There were so many lesson learned from the breakups(eh,banyak ke??) especially from the latest but one thing I learned the most was it obviously doesn’t worth it at all to hurt all other people who loves me and myself even more merely for a guy. There are so many people around me who really care and love me so I shoudln’t be selfish to others and ignore their feelings just like what the exbf did to me. Of course I can say this now since I’ve already met my Mr. Right hahaha! Kepada adik2 yang bercinta… kalau putus cinta jangan sedih lama2 sangat dan jangan buat benda2 yang bukan2.There must be some one who is meant for u.. Do not ever uter a word such,I can’t live without him ataupun takde orang lain yang lebih baik/sesuai dari dia. Belum bercinta lagi dah luka parah macam mana lah plak dia boleh jadi yang paling baik/sesuai kn? So semua itu adalah bullshit...what a stupid.. hahaha ;P Lebib baik doa kat Tuhan supaya cepat2 bagi kiter lupakan exbf yang berkenaan dan cepat2 temukan jodoh yang betul. Talking from experience. Kalau dah tak suka ur partner pun cepat2lah clash. Buat apa nak go on with the relationship if the love is no longer there kan? Sooner or later there must be someone who will feel frustrated either u or ur partner..

Tak der Kejer..

Normally,when it comes to ‘What I love to do most?’, the best answer will be ‘Shopping and travelling.But for the time being travelling could b spmething very impossible as my beloved husband is not aailable to spend his time travelling due to heavy workload.Well,as for shopping, I believe everybody on earth with money regardless either you are actually rich or poor;pokai or botak both know what is the meaning of it. Unfortunately it already has been months since I last did my shopping. Okay that sounds very worst but that’s it, so TRUE. If only I have all the money in the world!(lambatnye nak keje warrghhhhh)) Okay.. okay cool down. I was already felt like half mad while just browsing each and every page of websites showing branded items. I am so sure if only all the shopaholic friends of mine would get the chance to grab this opportunity, they won’t regret it ever. Well, I think it will just be better if I don’t get myself too excited yet. Why? I will feel more despair if I will not get the things that I want. I already have got all the things that I should and I just want a few things more. So many choices mean so many desires too.And..to fulfill the desire is somehow very hard to do..

The second thing that makes me so happy today is because I have found a website which actually teaches people to keep fit by doing dancing workouts!There are videos of the dances and there are even step-by-step moves video provided so that we can follow all the cool dancing moves (ouh they can be downloaded too!). I was so freaking excited and how I wish if only I could start dancing once I watched the videos.Erm..Till then..

Nothing much to say...

Salam A'laik..I’m back again and as usual with lots of updates which actually I have already lost track for the half of them. Yup, of course there are juicy and slurpy stories too but almost all of them are too personal to be told here and I better pour out only the common ones. I wished that I could tell everything happens in my life in here but after a second thought I don’t feel too comfortable with it. Because, others will read them and it bothers me a lot if the readers happen to know me regardless either they are important persons in my life or just cyber acquaintances who barely knew about me. The most important points after all are, I will feel weak and fool after reading them and I don’t like that feelings though. I have once read something at somewhere one time before, which said something like this; actually we need not to tell the whole secrets we have to others because at the end of the day we will end up becoming too dependable to others’ advices, mercies and concerns in other to move on. In fact, the little strong secrets we kept ourselves will inspire us to be wiser, braver and more matured to stand on our own in the future. So, I tried the latter since the time when I discovered about it and today I can say that I really agree with the idea. But well, just in case; I think I better stick with my own private journal or the mind chest too. Usually I would prefer the latter choice and sometimes would unlock the chest and let the painful memories been blown and gone with the wind as time passed by.

Okay, what a boring talking there dowh! Hmmm nothing special happened for the past few days, of course there were something huge happened between us (as usual arr....) but I’m not gonna talk about it =P =P =P releks ar... marriage life is always like that, like the high and low tides of the ocean where forgives and forgets, toleration and cooperation, respects and patience and all other important elements would always give and take non-stop continuously. Well, My love is very busy for the past 2 weeks since the plant is having a shut down..It is very bad for him indeed as he has to work very badly..plus,his annual leave is being freeze for the time being due to shut down process.. I told him that for next year’s annual leaves he will have to reserve them for only emergencies,(giving birth or well-planned holidays and other important purposes only). Hope that he will stick to his words...

Pregnancy???A m I ready??

My Kak Long called me yesterday when I was lying on bed thinking about the future..hahhaha..what will my future be??As usual she would asked"dh makan?" "tgh buat ape?" and at all of sudden before I could just answered all the previous questions came this question" ain dah pregnant ke?" hahhaha..I'm so surprised afterall..But then again it is undeniable,I am planning to have baby.and sometimes I feel like it's time for me to think of it and Yes,I'm quite ready..I always refer to Kak Long for any guidance and medical tips as she is my private doctor(free of charge) and she did mentioned to me that before you get pregnant it is important to make sure that you are truly prepared. Preconception care is an important aspect of helping to create a healthy pregnancy.

Apart from that, what matters most to me is Am I ready to give of myself to another person?Am I emotionally in a place where I can handle the responsibility that comes with having a baby?How about the lifestyle changes such as how comfortable I am with a lifestyle change. A baby adds a new person into my family, and the transition from a twosome to a threesome is a big one. erm...Is Parenting For Me Now?thing to ponder..

In Memory of MJ

I am speechless...

I discovered very well although it is getting hotter from day to day and each day by the end of the afternoon and my body will feel sticky of excessive sweating but I love it the part when I hear the sound of raindrops from outside the house. Thanks to God for the blessing pours down to the earth. Have I ever said that I love rainy days?

There is nothing much to say and nothing extraordinary for me to update since everything is going on in a very mundane way. Except that I just come to the fact that I need to take more than one shower in a day during this summer weather. Surely I realized of the fact since before but I’m just so used with my cold weather shower routine. . But definitely I still do it anyway, so that I won’t get smelly and the shower help refreshes my body too eventually. Although sometimes I do skip and just do it once a day

I officially completed 4 months of my final semester and very soon next week I’m gonna seat for my final examination. I still feel like it is quite a long way to go. I’m feeling so perhaps because I can’t stop myself from keep looking at the calendar and counting the days. I’m so eager for the day to come. But sometimes I just feel like I can’t go through the day, the feelings, the adrenaline rush, the atmosphere and all which are so familiar once again that makes me wishing if only I could just skip and jump to when everything has already happened. But I can only dream of it. I’ll still have to face all of the things one by one once again. So much of thoughts and feelings mixed in me but amidst of those, one thing for sure is a big part of me do feel wanting to experience all those beautiful moments once again and I pray hard, perhaps with only happy ending too; InsyaAllah.

That is all for today. Till later!

Final Exam...Bit Taufik Wan Najjah..

Can't wait to finish the sem..This is my last sem before the teaching practice started next january.Rite now,I am looking for the mood to study since I lost it due to many unnecessary and nasty things Assignments,coursework,project and so n and so forth..have no time for my self..Gosh.....I am dead bored focusing too much to other things...Whatever it is,life must go on,as a student,this is the rality we must face..All the best to my friends...Hope we strive for the best and will always lead the rest in many aspects in life.

Ancaman dan Peringatan dari ALLAH

sorry for the long silent due to a hectic lifestyle and the burden of workload..Erm,well,many things to ponder lately...one of it is very related to this universe...ALLAH'S calling...it is something that many of us included me sometimes refuse to reflect..And at all of sudden,zasss.... A powerful earthquake off eastern Indonesia damaged dozens of buildings and at least 17 were injured.Do we still remember In December 2004, a massive earthquake off the country's western island of Sumatra triggered a tsunami that battered much of the Indian Ocean coastline and killed more than 230,000 people or more than half of them in Indonesia's Aceh province alone.Is there nothing to be learned from those incidents??I mean as a normal human being plus,as MUSLIMS,dont we have a sense of "gerun"or readiness or most of things repentance as clearly it is sort of warning from The Lord for us to be more ready and to reflect upon our lifestyle...
Warnings from God might come in different and various forms...Have a deep reflection of how we live in this world..Many still take religious as merely religious without having a deep thought and heart towards it...

Personally..

SALAM TO ALL..Honestly speaking,I always feel very excited and can’t wait to update the blog whenever I have interesting things to blog about... But... unfortunately sometimes when I already reached the middle of the entry, suddenly the mood faded away. That’s the time when I would hit the ’save now’ button and logged out right away. This cause me to always have a few drafts in my folder and usually… most of them would be gone obviously because I would delete them right after I logged in again later. This entry is also one of them but fortunately I didn’t decide to make it vanish so now I’m doing some editing and updating on it ;P

Anyway I’m quite tired today. In fact since last weekend my days have been pretty occupied in a row. I have been travelling from Malacca to Kuantan almost every week now and plus today’s weather isn’t really sunny and it was drizzling early in the morning. By the way last night I had a nightmare of my relatives met with an accident and the dream was really terrifying and it was vivid too! I hate vivid dreams and I still have them every once in a while up until now. Luckily I wasn’t in the dream.. But I suddenly woke up with my heart pounding very fast and my mouth kept reciting all the prayers came across my mind. Glad that I had been saved.


Now on another matter… actually it has been quite some times I have been thinking about moving to a new blog. I started pondering about this since months ago. As much as I love Bl*gger but I think I’m starting to feel boring within the medium. I want a new platform.. with a new environtment which eventually will rejuvenate me more to blog. Plus lately I have came across a few blogs which mentioned about Bl*gger blogs beeing suddenly disappeared. So… I think maybe I shouldn’t procrastinate any more longer and moved already, should I? Some times I don’t feel like sharing the story with EVERYone although I don’t actually write very personal things in the blog. What you read in my blog are only about 20% revelation from my real life.Honestly speaking I dont agree with some blogs which reveal everything about their life from bedroom to kitchen to the so-called secret between spouses..Oh no...this is the danger of being too passionate into bloging..we need to take into account that revealing one's family matters is "HARAM" In Islam..I don’t like to read something which is very personal even the blogger did not mind.
Anyway,that is all for today..hope to write more soon..till then....

had and invitation from my friend C-Da.We went to her house at Bukit Rambai right after Zohor prayer.It has been long time since I attended my friend's open house.We arrived there at about 3 in the evening.Had a great time with C-Da's family.Her dad and mum was really sporting and easy going kind of people.We enjoyed the food prepare by her mum.It was delicious.Had a beehun sup pedas berapi (made by her mum. sedapla aunty,makan 2 bowls slurppp kenyangg -there goes my diet) n some yummy cakes and cookies.

we were among the last guests they had that day,after Yana and the gang arrived after being astrayed...hahhahaha.. so the rest activity was ‘cam-whoring’ session...We all love this session.But tooo bad i didnt bring any camera at that time, we had to minta belas kasihan from we to capture the unforgettable moments. will upload here once i get them from we.

Happy eid...

I am so sorry for the late update, as I was pretty busy with the house chores as well as hanging out with my family :)

Well,during ramadhan we know that this is the month where all "Rahmat""Maghfirah" and "barakah" is prepared for us.And of all the advantages,one of the virtues that fasting is supposed to teach is patience. Patience, as we know it, does not come naturally in a human being. This is proved by how impatient all children are; regardless of their race and origins. So, it is up to the ones around them to teach them.The act of fasting is said to redirect the heart away from worldly activities, its purpose being to cleanse the inner soul and free it from harm. It also allows Muslims to practice self-discipline, self-control,sacrifice, and empathy for those who are less fortunate; thus encouraging actions of generosity and charity(Zakat). Erm,this year my Love is responsible to pay the Zakat for me..This is something quite peculiar as before this My dad is responsible of paying the zakat and so on and so forth..In addition to zakat and fasting, Muslims are encouraged to read the entire Qur'an. Some Muslims perform the recitation of the entire Qur'an by means of special prayers, called Tarawih, which are held in the mosques every night of the month, during which a whole section of the Qur'an.

Herm,We will be missing this Ramadhan as we do not know whether or not we might be able to meet this month full of "Barakah'next year....wallahualam..

Delicious menu....

Salam to all..
I would like to share a pic of our family's favourite menu during Ramadhan..taraa..murtabak..Be it "daging" or"ayam" flavour both are nice and delicious....
Normally,during Ramadhan it is compulsory for the family to have this "juadah"..
The history of murtabak is found from the arabs.it is a dish which is commonly found in Saudi Arabia,Brunei,Indonesia and Malaysia.Depending on the location, the name and ingredients can significantly vary. The name mutabbaq (or sometimes mutabbag) in Arabic means "folded".

In Malaysia, where it is called "Murtabak", it is sold bymamak salesmen, and usually includes mincedbeef,mutton along with garlic,egg ,and onion and is eaten with curry sauce.Nice isn't it??

erm..I can't wait to have it for today's breakfasting....

4th Year....^Student and Wife^

Naik 4th year, I dah jadi isteri. Pengajian tetap susah, tapi tak busy sangat. Kelas pun tak sebanyak 1st and 2nd year.
Seronoknya kahwin awal ni, fikiran dan hati yang lapang! Dikala teman2 duk kusut dengan masalah boyfriend dan cinta bersegi2, I dah settle down dengan someone yang insyaAllah akan menjadi teman hidup seumur hidup... Emosi sangat stabil, sebab I always have him by my side whenever I need him. Walaupun tanggungjawab berganda, tapi langsung tak pernah rasa terbeban, malah ianya lebih mematangkan I untuk menilai kehidupan. Hidup pun lebih terurus, sebabnya jadual harian tersusun! Dah fix bila nak bangun/tidur, nak masak, nak wat esainmen, nak pi kuliah, pendek kata masa begitu bernilai untuk diurus sebaiknya.

Boleh ker menikah masa study?!
Kalau course lain, I'm not sure. Tapi course I susah nak dpt penerimaan sket especially so di kalangan lecturer institut perguruan..susah juga twinning program ni...my course is a twinning programme antara IPGM Melaka dengan UIA GombaK..I have no problem with UIA'S lecturer as over there students memnag digalakkan menikah untuk mengelakjkan fitnah selain menunaikan sebahagian dari sunnah Rasullulah..Tapi lain pula halnya dengan di institut perguruan ni...tahun akhir,kami kene balik maktab utk praktikal dan abiskan satu sem teori part.. I pon tak pasti kenapa..tapi I still remember ada sorang lecrer ni cam tak yakin dgn student2 yang kawin awal based on expereince from my seniors..Let me explain,dalam kontrak yang ditandatangani sebelum join course B.Ed TESL ni dulu tiada tertulis dilarang berkahwin sehingga tamat pengajian... Tapi di dalam buku peraturan instiut perguruan tertulis bahawa students dibenarkan menikah, tetapi tidak dibenarkjan mengandung..

Secara peribadi I berpendapat, Institut dan juga lecturer2 yang tak berapa nak faham ni perlu ubah persepsi depa terhadap nikah ni, beri SEDIKIT kelonggaran... Rasanya percentage students kahwin dan gagal dalam study terlalu kecil, kes2 terpencil. Walhal, pernikahan adalah faktor penyelamat dan pemberi semangat... Alam rumahtangga lebih mematangkan manusia sekaligus menjadi "pengawal"...

I tak nak disenaraikan dalam kes2 terpencil tu, so I work hard untuk reputasi yang lebih baik. bab anak InsyaALLAH abis study ni akan ade rezeki...Atas sebab ni laa, myLove nak I habiskan study dulu baru fikir bab anak. I have a big responsibility, I pakai duit rakyat Malaysia to further my studies, I have big commitment! Bukan calang2 amanah yang I pikul, tambahan pula ini adalah harapan ayah dan mak...itu yang I pegang selalu...
Bila bercakap soal tanggungjawab dan amanah, I rasa tak ramai yang faham...Tak ramai yang tahu kenapa mereka perlu pergi sejauh ini untuk segulung ijazah... Lantaran itu, ada yang kecundang, kalah di tengah perjalanan, dari satu permulaan cerita yang panjang! Scholarship hampir RM700 sebulan, yuran pengajian dan sebagainya, terlalu banyak wang dah dihabiskan, tapi mereka pulak bersikap acuh tak acuh pada peluang yang ada. Bila gagal, senang pulak cakap, itu takdir, ujian dari Allah! Ya benar, semuanya itu takdir, semua yang baik mahupun tidak adalah ujian tapi sejauh mana we put affort to avoid those things from happen, that's the main point. Kuliah-ponteng, asainmen lewat hantar, exam-kantoi, jumpa lecturer-malas, banyak lagi laa, semua sebab2 kegagalan tu adalah berpunca dari diri sendiri, lagi mau salah Tuhan ka?! aiyaaa... Hmmm entahlah, anak bangsa melayu, selalu lalai dalam kesenangan percuma!

Masak,makan,makan dan masak dan makan.......

Tajuk entry kali ni agak pening sebab I sendiri pon pening dengan aktiviti masak dan makan yang tak berkesudahan since I dapat cuti 5 hari utk wabak H1N1 ni..As usual,I memang tak kan lepaskan peluang yang ada waktu2 cuti ni untuk masak for my husband because once I masuk belajar dah tak de peluang dah dia nak makan masakan I..One thing yang I discover after marriage ni,I memang suka masak....sangat suka..tak kira la apa saja menu atau meal time..dinner ke,lunch ke,breakfast ke,tea ke atau snack time..kalau boleh setiap masa I nak bagi my love makan dgn air tangan sendiri..I just couldn't explain why..Perhaps because of the nature or inheritance from my mother..My mom seorng yang suka masakWalaupon dia seorang wanita yang berkerja dan bukan housewife,tapi dia akan pastikan kami makan makanan hasil air tangan ibu sebab di situ ada keberkatan dan lebih meneratkan lagi hubungan kasih sayang sesama keluarga.. and jarang2 sangat kami sekeluarga makan di luar memandangkan my mom tak suka sangat kami makan2 di restoran.Apapon mesti masak dirumah.So bila dah terbiasa tengok situasi mcm tu,I jadi budaya la bila dah kawin,I nak bagi my love makan masakan sendiri..Puas ati woo...
Pengalaman masak-masak ni pulak bagi I memang dah biasa sebab kami adik beradik memang dah terbiasa memasak sejak kecil.Cuma I ni agak lewat pandai masak sebab maklumlah I ramai kakak..Tugas masak-masak ni kakak2 I je yang uruskan..But then bila diorang masuk universiti dan berkahwin, dah tak de orang nak masak so I have to take the responsibility belajar masak.Tapi bagi I tak susah pun..Yang penting berani mencuba dan konsisten..
Well,nak share jugak lah apa menu2 yang I pernah masak semenjak kawin ni..Antaranya,lauk pauk yang simple2 je macam kari ayam,daging dan ikan,nasi minyak,sambal tumis sotong,bilis dan banyak lagi la..My love ni jenis yang tak cerewet bab makan..So Alhamdulilah lah..I rasa lebih enjoy masak sebab dia tak pernah memilih sangat bab makan..So far,I m happy with the cooking and will always enjoy cooking all the time InsyaALLAH...

Manage our money wisely...

Well,entry kali ni agak berbunyi serius as it involves money management..As we know,of all things in this world,money comes first after family..It is a big lie I should say if someone tell me that he/she doesn' have any interest in making more profit or to have at lkeast a small amount of money to survive in this life full of challenges.Atau ade yang kata duit tak mendatangkan kebahagiaan...yup,its tru duit tk bawak kebahagiaan,but then just ponder ,saying that you don’t care about money is a lie, because we all have to care up to a point. Beyond our basic needs it becomes a balancing act to ensure that we continue to care for and manage our money wisely without going overboard in either spending or saving.As we do not know what might happen in the future,then.....saving money is so important for many reasons.In terms of emergencies, it is so important to be saving money. Like our Malays used to say,"sediakan payung sebelum hujan"While no one likes to think about the possibility that they will lose their job, become disabled,(Nauzubillah) or have some other sort of disastrous financial crisis, the fact of the matter is that it happens to people all of the time.
Therefore,as to me...i dah prepare several plans for emergencies..sekarang dah tahun akhir..so it takes me about 7 months to graduate and to enter the work field working as a government servant...Currently,I am receiving a scholarship and that could lessen the burden, but then we need to think of the costs of living nowadays..Harga barang tak pernah turun..Ni harga tiket pengankitan awam dah nak naik...Everything is expensive....nak masuk toilet pon kene bayar....so,the best thing is,focus on the basic needs first.Bila rasa teringin sesuatu I akan pastikan I kaji betul2 harga dan kualiti supaya tak menyesal kalau2 terjumpa barang yang lebih baik dgn harga yang berpatutan di tempat lain..Keinginan kita boleh diatasi jika kita berfikir sejenak secara rasional dan profesional...I banyak membaca buku-buku pengurusan wang oleh pakar-pakar ekonomi yang berjaya.Dulu I ada juga cuba buat MLM tapi tak menjadi sebab hangat-hangat taik ayam jer.....so buat masa sekarang I cuma tumpu pada pelaburan..ada la sedikit pelaburan sebab tak mampu nak buat bisnes besar2an walaupun minat dan keinginan I pada bisnes sangatlah besar...Cuma,buat masa ni I kene fokus pada study dn habiskan Kontrak dgn kementerian dan mungkin pas tu ade la ruang dan peluang yang datang untuk I masuk bidang bisnes pulak..nak tau bisnes apa,kene tunggu yer..

Family Ties..

Al-Qurtubi said:

"The family ties which must be maintained are general and specific. The general one is the relations of Islam. It is obligatory to maintain connections with them with friendly relations, advice, justice, fairness and fulfilling ones obligations to them in the obligatory and the commendable. The specific includes financially supporting family members, checking on their condition and overlooking their mistakes."

Cutting family ties which should be maintained has serious consequences in this life and in the hereafter. It is one of the worst of the major sins.

Allah says:

'Those who join that which God has Commanded to be joined, and have awe for their Lord, and fear the constraint of the reckoning.' (Ar-Rad:21)

So let's obey Allah, let us keep our blood ties. When you come to think of it, that's what we need nowadays and forever, maintaining family ties is what implants inside us the sense of stability and spiritual peacefulness. Let us stay close to our families and our relatives.

Why do we read Al-Quran?..

Why do we read Quran, even if we can't understand a single Arabic word? This is beautiful story, please read till end and forward to all you knows...

An old American Muslim lived on a farm in the mountains of eastern Kentucky with his young grandson. Each morning Grandpa was up early sitting at the kitchen table reading his Qur'an. His grandson wanted to be just like him and tried to imitate him in every way he could.

One day the grandson asked,
"Grandpa! I try to read the Qur'an just like you but I don't understand it, and what I do understand I forget as soon as I close the book. What good does reading the Qur'an do?"

The Grandfather quietly turned from putting coal in the stove and replied,
"Take this coal basket down to the river and bring me back a basket of water."

The boy did as he was told, but all the water leaked out before he got back to the house.

The grandfather laughed and said,
"You'll have to move a little faster next time,"

He sent him back to the river with the basket to try again. This time the boy ran faster, but again the basket was empty before he returned home. Out of breath, he told his grandfather that it was impossible to carry water in a basket, and he went to get a bucket instead.

The old man said,
"I don't want a bucket of water; I want a basket of water. You're just not trying hard enough,"

He went out the door to watch the boy try again. At this point, the boy knew it was impossible, but he wanted to show his grandfather that even if he ran as fast as he could, the water would Leak out before he got back to the house. The boy again dipped the basket into river and ran hard, but when he reached his grandfather the basket was again empty.

Out of breath, he said,
"See Grandpa, it's useless!"

"So you think it is useless?"

The old man said,
"Look at the basket."

The boy looked at the basket and for the first time realized that the basket was different. It had been transformed from a dirty old coal basket and was now clean, inside and out.

"Son, that's what happens when you read the Qur'an. You might not understand or remember everything, but when you read it, you will be changed, inside and outside. That is the work of Allah in our lives."

Moral of the story : Read Al-Quran frequently as it will purify our heart. When we have pure heart, it is easy to do righteous and leave jahiliyah and badness in ourselves.

The important of silaturrahim...

The above entry is about the importance of maintaining silaturrahim among kinship.BasicallyI know from experience (22 years old over so far) as well as through my observation just how close, even magical, relationships between brothers and sisters and parents can be, but I have a different take on the reason. From a child's perspective, I think what's uniquely important about a silaturrahim is that it is long lasting and it gives us strength as well as confident to face the hard time in life.People say'air dicincang tidak akan putus' dan begitula hubungan persaudaraan walau terpisah jauh sekalipon tetap tidak akan pupus dan luput dari ingatan.Therefore in my personal view,maintaining Silaturraahim (Family Ties) is an Islamic obligation and it need to be taken seriously into account."Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him maintain the bonds of kinship." [Sahih Al-Bukhari] Besides, another hadith explains further the reason for this: "Allah's mercy will not descend on people among whom there is one who severs ties of kinship." [Baihaqi, Shuab Al-Iman]Therefore,we should obey Allah's rules that we need to maintain good relationship among kinship.Sesungguhnya Islam adalah agama yang terbaik dan amat menjaga umatnya terutama dalam hal2 kekeluargaan dan menjaga perhubungan baik sesama kaum keluarga dan sesama islam..Wallahua'lam..segala yang baik datangnya dari ALLAH dan segala yang kurang baik adalah kelemahan saya sendiri...

Cita-Cita sejak zaman kanak-kanak..

Tajuk entry saya kali ini macam karangan budak darjah 2. hehehe,,tidak mengapa la kerana saya tetap ingin berkongsi pengalaman mepunyai cita-cita yang banyak yang sering bertukar-tukar semenjak dari kecil lagi...Sejak berumur 6 tahun seingat saya saya sudah mempunyai cita2..nak tau apa cita2 saya yang pertama?saya pernah bercita-cita untuk menjadi seorang perdana menteri wanita pertama kat Malaysia..semuanya gara-gara taksub dengan kepimpinan Tun Mahathir.yerla kan waktu tu budak2,rasa kagum la dengan pm kita waktu tu dan kat tadika pon cikgu selalu berkobar2 pesan bila besar jadi la orang yang berjaya macam perdana menteri ke,doktor ke peguam ke..But as long as I could still remmeber the first profession that came out on my mind at that particular period of time was prime minister..I just couldnt explain why it was such a great job for me perhaps because of the credibility as well as the popularity that makes me really interested.hahahha..budak2 kecik lagi time tu..ingat sennag ke jadi pm..then,my ambition keep on changing to become a lawyersebab suka tengok cerita fight kat court,then police,architect,doctor...dan I pernah ada cita2 nak jadi DJ radio sebab obsessed dengar radio..dan I ade sorang kawan ni dia kata dia pernah ade cita2 nak jadi polis Hong Kong waktu dia kecil dlu sebab obsessed tengok filem2 citer polis Hong Kong..hahahha..kelakar sungguh...But there was no "teaching profession" listed on my career list.hahhaha..just imagine tetiba I boleh decide to go into teaching profession sedangkan tak pernah ada cita-cita pon nak jadi cikgu or tenaga pengajar..Itulah putaran hidup namanya..sesuatu yang tak disangka seringkali mendatangi kita..Apapon tak salah ada cita2,at least kita mampu ada cita2...walaupon tak mampu nak gapai..daripada tak de cita2,lagi tak de apa2 nak gapai...

Khasiat Kurma..

Apakah khasiat buah kurma yang kita selalu makan especially when it comes to Ramadhan??Actually,buah kurma ni terlalu banyak sangat khasiat dan zat2 yang mampu meberi kekuatan kepada tubuh badan manusia.Dari segi khasiat,kurma amatlah kaya dengan zat besi dan ia sangat sesuai dimakan, terutama bagi wanita sedang haid dan orang yang mengalami masalah anemia (kekurangan sel darah merah).Selain itu kandungan gulanya mudah diserap badan dan memberi tenaga segera apabila berbuka puasa. Sebab itu la,kita disunatkan berbuka dengan kurma terlebih dahulu kerana berbuka dengan kurma membuatkan kita berasa cepat kenyang dan secara tidak langsung mengelakkan kita makan secara berlebihan.erm..Bagus kan apa yang islam ajar....
Furthermore,kandungan potasium di dalam buah kurma pula penting untuk sistem saraf yang merangsang daya ingatan, membangkit nafsu kelamin (aprodisiak) dan meningkatkan sistem pertahanan badan khususnya untuk mencegah barah buah dada dan rahim.
Dan kepada ibu2 mengandung,Kurma juga boleh membantu memudahkan proses bersalin dan mengecutkan rahim kerana ada bahan boleh membantu proses berkenaan, sebagaimana dilakukan Maryam as yang memakan buah kurma selepas melahirkan Nabi Isa as. Jadi kawan2,marilah kita manfaatkan kebaikan dan khasiat yang ada pada buah kurma ini dan ajdikanlah ianya amalan makanan seharian kita sebagai muslim supaya badan kekal sihat utk melakukan amal ibadat..Wallahualam..

Khasiat Kurma..

appreciate....be grateful to ALLAH...

Salam...what does it mean to be grateful?
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Something I received from someone I love for Allah’s sake…

Read. Ponder. Pass it on.

When one reflects upon the bounties that Allah has bestowed on him, and how little he is thankful for them, he becomes ashamed of asking for more because of how much he has attained thus far.

Kahwin Awal part 2

Ok, jom kita sambung topik kahwin awal, ni masuk part 2 pulak yer kawan2.... Sebelum tu, siapa2 nak komen panjang berjela pun I don't mind, sila2, you are welcome to do so!especially so pada sape2 yg memang ade pengalaman la kan..Pada pandangan I, berkahwin dalam usia yang masih muda remaja bermakna seseorang itu berani dan sudah bersedia memikul komitmen untuk masuk ke satu dunia yang serba baru. Sebelum kahwin, I just think of my desire, keinginan I, minat I, matlamat hidup I dan segala2nya hanya bertumpu pada diri sendiri, contohnya nak tidur pukul berapa, nak bangun pukul berapa, nak makan apa, nak tengok citer apa...nak buat apa, nak pergi mana, everything I decided on my own... But once I got married, then the battle began....I can say that "dunia" atau kehidupan I dah dimasuki seseorang, seseorang yang berkongsi segala2nya dengan I... Setelah dia ada, hidup I banyak berubah totally berubah....... Apa yang boleh I katakan, perubahan tu adalah perubahan ke arah yang positif...Sebelum kahwin, I tak ada specific jadual hidup. There were no specific schedule to be followed,semuanya hentam kromo jer...kehidupan I biasanya tunggang langgang, boleh bangun lewat, boleh tak masak, boleh tak makan, boleh tidur terus lepas balik kelas petang, boleh keluar ikut sedap hati, boleh study ikut mood, boleh tak tidur langsung satu malam, hahaha, sungguh tak terurus... Tapi bila dah kahwin, jadual hidup jadi lebih sistematik... Bangun awal untuk siapkan breakfast for my husband, dan bila waktu petang siapkan diri tunggu myLove back from work... kalau nak keluar ada teman, tidur pun awal, pendek kata, I lebih berdisiplin laa lepas dah menjadi isteri, hehehe...Sebelum kahwin, matlamat hidup I slalu berubah2..., bertukar2 dan tak stabil... Yer laa kan, I still tak nampak hala tuju yang sebenar, masih kabur.... Dan sebagai wanita, walaupun I gila2 mengejar kerjaya, I tak dapat lari dari memikirkan soal perkahwinan..Bila dah settle down, I hanya perlu fikir tentang karier I saja, dari 2 perkara yang memeningkan, I hanya ada 1 jer lagi beban untuk dipikul... Alhamdulillah, myLove sangat supportive, bukan sahaja menjadi pendengar kepada segala angan2 I, malah dia selalu beri pandangan dan mencari jalan untuk I dapat segala apa yang I idam2kan. Dia tak pernah patahkan semangat I, sebaliknya dia selalu beri I peransang walaupun kadang2 tu apa yang I nak tu sebenarnya mustahil untuk I dapat, tapi dia tak pernah memperkecilkan impian I... And so far, kami punya matlamat yang sama, keinginan memiliki masa depan yang serupa...One more thing la kan,heheh ni nak citer pengalama sket la..zaman budak2 dlu..Sebelum kahwin, fikiran I selalu diganggu masalah cinta. Dah kalau bercinta tu, macam2 masalah yang datang. Rindu laa, cemburu laa, bergaduh laa, itu laa ini laa, tak habis2, lepas satu, satu pulak yang timbul. Kadang2 hal ni boleh pulak membawa kepada kekacauan hati, nak study pun tak senang dibuatnya... timbul masalah hati pulak kan..dah berdosa..bila hati tk kusyuk dan tak tennag..Tapi bila dah kahwin, Alhamdulilah..settle problem Rindu pun tak apa, tiap2 hari mesti boleh jumpa. Nak cemburu pun no hal, dia dah jadi milik I, boleh laa nak kontrol2 sikit kan. Kalau gaduh pun kejap jer dah baik semula, dah nama pun tinggal sebumbung kan, mana tahan bermasam muka lama2, yer tak?! Nak dating 24jam pun beres jer, tak ada rasa bersalah dah..Dulu swebelum kawin slalu rasa sunyi walaupon hidup i ni selalu dikelilingi kawan2..tapi kawan2 pon ade privacy diorang gak kan..So bila dah kahwin, rasa sunyi tu hilang, I ada teman nak berbual, nak bergurau, nak bergaduh, nak diajak ke mana2, nak buat apa2 pun seronok..tak keseorangan..Kesimpulannya, I tak pernah menyesal untuk mengakhiri zaman solo I di awal usia 20-an. .Rasa cam nak sambung part three plak..before that,I nak kongsi sket email yg diforward oleh kawan..dibawah ni yer..

JANGAN MENIKAH karena ....
1. Jangan menikah karena hartaTidak ada gunanya hidup bergelimangan harta tanpa cinta. Harta dapat datang dan pergi setiap saat. "Cinta" yang sesat dan sesaat dapat diperoleh setiap saat, tapi cinta yang sejati tidak dapat dibeli dengan harta.
2. Jangan menikah karena perasaan asmaraRasa tertarik, simpati, naksir, yang merupakan asmara yang sering disalahertikan sebagai cinta. Asmara itu bukan cinta. Asmara dapat cepat berubah oleh rupa, harta, tempat dan keadaan. Asmara itu buta, tidak tahan lama dan tidak tahan uji. Cinta perlu diuji dalam suka dan duka dengan mata terbuka.
3. Jangan menikah karena rupa sajaKecantikan yang diluar memang indah, tapi dapat luntur termakan umur.Utamakanlah kecantikan yang di dalam.
4. Jangan menikah karena ibalba (rasa kasihan) memang baik dan harus ada dalam hidup kita, tapi tidak boleh menjadi dasar pernikahan. Kasihan dapat habis, tapi kasih tidak berkesudahan. Dasar pernikahan adalah kasih, bukan kasihan.
5. Jangan menikah untuk kepuasan sex sajaMemang sex suci dan penting dalam hubungan suami-istri, namun tidak boleh menjadi tujuan utama dari pernikahan. Sex hanyalah salah satu bahagian dari pernikahan. Orang yang hanya mengejar kenikmatan sex akan kecewa dan terjerat oleh kesusahan yang diciptakannya sendiri.
6. Jangan menikah karena paksaan keluargaSeorang anak harus berbakti kepada keluarga, namun tidak boleh menyerah dalam hal nikah, kalau mereka memang salah dan anda benar.Berdoalah dan berikanlah penjelasan kepada mereka, jangan dengan kekerasan.
7. Jangan menikah karena desakan usiaBila usia sudah menjelang senja dan rekan-rekan sudah berpasangan, orang akan mulai gelisah (terutama pada wanita). Banyak orang akhimya "asal tabrak dan sikat". Hindarilah tindakan tersebut. Yakinilah bahwa ALLAH sudah menyediakan yang terbaik untuk anda. Jangan takut kehabisan jatah dan kadaluarsa.
8. Jangan menikah untuk membalas jasaOrang yang telah berbuat baik perlu dibalas, tapi jangan dengan pernikahan.
Salah satu hal lain yang tidak boleh dilupakan, dan merupakan yang terpenting adalah jangan menikah tanpa pengertian dan persiapan dengan tindakan yang nyata.
Menikahlah menurut pola rencana Tuhan - Daripada salah dan mengundang derita, lebih baik tidak menikah. Jika tidak diteguhkan oleh Tuhan. Karena Tuhanlah yang menciptakan manusia berpasang-pasangan.*

Tanpa persetujuan Tuhan YANG MAHA ESA, tidak mungkin manusia dapat bersatu !

Anak,Isteri,Ibu...

Before I begin to compose the above topic, jom kita layan dulu salah satu lagu kegemaran saya sejak dahulu lagi iatu di zaman The Zikr sampai la zaman sekarang ni..tajuk dia isteri cerdik yang solehah...

Isteri cerdik yang solehah
Penyejuk mata, penawar hati, penajam fikiran
Di rumah dia isteri, di jalanan kawan
Di waktu kita buntu, dia penunjuk jalan

Pandangan kita diperteguhkan
Menjadikan kita tetap pendirian
Ilmu yang diberi dapat disimpan
Kita lupa, dia mengingatkan

Nasihat kita dijadikan pakaian
Silap kita, dia betulkan
Penghibur di waktu kesunyian
Terasa ramai bila bersamanya

Dia umpama tongkat si buta
Bila tiada satu kehilangan
Dia ibarat simpanan ilmu
Semoga kekal untuk diwariskan

Best kan lagu ni,terkesan dihati...
Now my dearest friends,brother and sister in Islam...Amongst the clearest examples of Islam's honoring women is the great status of the mother in Islam.Kenapa Islam meletakkan wanita di tahap tinggi?sehinggakan dalam islam hak ibu untuk dihormati dan disayangi lebih tinggi berbanding ayah.Others may claim that mother has more rights than father.Although the first part of this verse is a command to do good to both the parents, the second sentence refers only to the hardships suffered by the mother, because they are unavoidable, tanpa ibu we have no place rite??and no child can be born without them.Bagi I, every mother has to go through the problems of pregnancy and severe pains of delivery and,as against this, it is not necessary for a father that he suffers any hardship in bringing up and educating the child, if he can afford to pay somebody else for these services.Nampak tak betapa cantik dan adil ALLAH buat?? This is why the Holy Prophet (peace be upon him) has given more rights to the mother than anybody else. According to a hadîth he has said,"Do good to and serve your mother, then your mother, then your mother,then your father, then the near relatives and then those who come after them."

detik-detik itu.......Masihkah kau ingat?

Dia yang bernama suami->He is the person who has supported me a lot throughout my life.hahahha.. I have no idea what should I write about him...Biar la simpan dalam hati saja.
I never thought that from kenal2 gitu2 aje, it will end up with marriage.
Yer laa,suami dah dikira super senior,6 tahun bezanya.Mula2 kenal dulu,(takut) la jugak,sebab I ni nakal+ giler2 sket....and suami plak(for those yg kenal dia,die boleh dikatakan seorang yang beradab..hehehhe..tomaninah sket..
Sambung cerita first I serius dgn suami Of course the thing that I would not forget for the rest of my life, the night before Ramadhan, he said that he want to meet my parents. It sounds like he is trying to hint me. Ahahaha,malunya... Ya,malu dalam suka for sure! ihiks. From the beginning, I knew my husband "like" me,so do I. Tapi tak berani nak mengharap, sekadar tunggu dan lihat. Andai ada jodoh, ada laa, andai tak ada, tak apa laa... Alhamdulillah,segalanya dipermudahkan...
Nanti I sambung lagi next entry k..

Sekolah yang mana

Baru2 ni, I timbulkan isu sekolah dan pendidikan bakal anak2 untuk dibincangkan dengan suami. Actually, I berhasrat nak antar anak2 ke Sekolah Cina. Ada beberapa sebab kenapa I berminat dengan sekolah cina ni. One of my sister pernah berbunyi bila I citer kat dia tentang angan2 I nak hantar my future child ke sekolah cina.Dia kata"apsal sibuk2 nak antar ke sekolah cina?kta tak boleh idup ke kalau tk dpt skill atau language ability dlm bahasa mandarin cam org cina?"baik antar sekolah agama,ade saham utk kite di akhirat..lagipun setakat alasan nak kuasai bahasa cina,rasanya tak perlu sebab kita sendiri boleh berjaya dengan menguasai bahasa sendiri.tak perlu2 susah2 nak kuasai bahsa diorang..Erm.....memang betul...kita boleh hidup dengan bahasa sendiri..tapi fokus atau point yg I cuba nak bawak di cni bukanlah semata2 nak kuasai bahasa cina sebab takut tk dpt bersaing or tk dpt keje masa akn dtg..cuma,bila kita ade kelebihan dari segi bahasa,kita akan lebih terkedepan dari orang lain..Lagipon I selalu fikir dari segi mematangkan umat islam sendiri..bukan ke dlm islam sendiri suruh kuasai banyak bahasa supaya kita tahu selok belok atau perjalanan hidup ni?lebih banyak bahasa yg kita kuasai,lebih luas fikiran kita,kita akan lebih memahami tentang sesuatu,lebih panjang akal kita lebih banyak tindakan yang baik yang akan menyusul..

Selain dari tu, tujuan I nak antar anak ke sekolah cina ni adalah supaya dia mampu kuasai bahasa cina sepenuhnya, develop communication skills dan tingkatkan IQ dan EQ nya dengan lebih efektif. Berbeza dengan suami yang agak risau dengan "pengaruh" persekitaran yang dirasakan mampu memberi kesan negatif kepada anak. I setuju dengan prinsip suami yang dia tak mahu anak2 bersekolah (primary shcool) chinese oriented school, kerana bimbangkan akhlak dan pengisian jiwa anak2 terhadap islam sukar diterapkan. Part tu I memang no doubt. That's why kami kene main peranan dlm hal ini utk menerapkan sekukuhnya the value of Islam. Memang I tak nafikan, ramai ibubapa muslim yang menyekolahkan anak2 mereka hadapi masalah dengan nilai islam ini. Di sekolah2 yang pihak pengurusan dan guru2 nya non-muslim, sudah pasti lah anak2 tak menerima sebarang info dan nilai agama dalam jiwa mereka. Apalagi, di sekolah cina ni, majoritinya adalah mereka yang tidak beragama, tuhan tu terlalu jauh untuk diagungkan apalagi nak dipercayai kewujudannya. I selalu mendengar keluhan ibu2 muslim tentang anak2 mereka. Dimomokkan dengan anasir2 yang terpesong jauh dari nilai agama. Pun begitu, semua ini tidaklah melemahkan semangat I untuk hantar my child ke sekolah cina. As for me, I will try my best to provide islamic value for him or her when he or her is at home.
kalau kehidupan di Malaysia ni, lately kita dapat lihat begitu ramai ibubapa yang sangat mementingkan soal jatidiri agama anak masing2. DIbuktikan dengan statistik tentang kemasukan pelajar2 ke sekolah agama. Beribu2 yang memohon untuk mengisi kekosongan yang tak seberapa, kalau zaman dulu sekolah agama dipandang sepi, lekeh dan tak ada standard, tapi sebaliknya zaman sekarang, berpusu2 orang nak menyekolahkan anak2 di sekolah2 ini. Sehinggakan terpaksa pulak dibuat saringan dengan ujian, hanya yang lulus sahaja akan berjaya menempatkan diri.

Tapi tak kurang jugak ramainya ibubapa yang hilang pedoman. Mereka lebih gembira dan berbangga melihat anak2 menjadi penghibur, penyanyi dan yang sewaktu dengannya. Kita boleh lihat dengan bercambahnya program realiti tv, begitu ramai yang berebut2 nak menampilkan diri menjadi manusia2 tak berakhlak(pengecualian kepada program realiti tv yang bermotif ya!). My mom kalau tengok rancangan2 seperti tom tom bak tu, dia mesti kata "kesian budak2 ni, mak bapak depa halakan depa ke jalan yang sesat". Memang pun! Ada masanya kita memang rasa seronok tengok gelagat anak2 kecil yang terkinja2 di atas pentas tu, tapi bila mereka membesar dengan dorongan ke arah itu, dah besar2 nanti buruk pulak bila tengok mereka begitu di atas pentas. Sedih betul kan... Bak ungkapan peribahasa arab "kita menuai apa yang kita tanam", kalau dah yang ditanam itu nilai2 yang buruk, apakah kita mengharapkan tuaian kita menjadi baik hasilnya?

Hakikatnya, mendidik benih2 islam ini bukanlah tugas yang mudah, biarpun kita berada di negara islam mahupun di negara yang islam terlalu asing buat penduduknya. Bila menetap di negara kafir, kita begitu concern tentang islam, kita mahu anak2 mendengar azan, belajar solat, belajar membaca al-quran, kenal dengan asas agama dan sebagainya, tapi bila balik ke negara islam, adakalanya kita lalai pulak memikirkan soalnya, take it for granted, haihhh...

Buat keluarga yang bakal dibina, I mengharapkan kami sebagai ibubapa akan sentiasa peka dengan semua persoalan ni. Walau apa sekalipun, segalanya bermula di rumah, titik awal yang menentukan hala tuju masa depan seorang anak...

takdir tuhan tak kan dapat dihalang..

Takdir adalah ketentuan mutlak dari Allah kepada setiap makhlukNYA.
Keyakinan pada Qada dan Qadar merupakan salah satu syarat tegaknya
iman seorang mukmin. Karena tidaklah dikatakan beriman seorang hamba
apabila tidak yakin kepada takdir baik dan yang buruk dari Allah SWT.

elergi?

kali ni nak citer bab elergi..hehehe..sellaunya bile sebut bab elergi org akan kaitkan dg food elergic kan..tapi klai ni I nak citer bab elergi gi kelas..hahahha..Astagfirullah teruknya enrty kali ni..tp jangan salah sangka,elergi yang dimaksudkan ni utk hari tetntu sahaja..

The Power of silent..

Most probably people would think that silent is the best way to stop any argument.I do agree with such a confession.But anyhow,is there any other benefits of silent?Many people claim that laughter is the best medicine,but for me,I strongly believe that silent is the best medicine.I would, of course, look positively towards the best medicine of laughter,but somehow or rather if we shut our mouth and start thinking,it would be rather great.Actually,based on my observation,I see lot of successful person yg berjaya atasi segala masalah yg dihadapi dgn sikap dia yang lebih prefer diam daripada meneruskan kata2 yang sampai bila pon tak abis2.As for me,I pon baru sedar kebaikan berdiam diri ni bila I observe one of my closest person in my life,and I found that he is such a rational and logical type of person.Having said that,every time dia tak setuju apa2 dgn I dia akan terlebih dahulu berdiam diri,keep silent and give me some time to reflect upon my action and words.
At first,I rasa tak setuju dgn perbuatan dia,because I think that sikap dia akan membuatkan I rasa lebih marah because there is no response towards my conversation with him(whenever there is a misunderstanding.But then,I start thinking,why do this person acted this way is because,he knows better than me.To put in the simplest way,let me tell you guys,sometimes dalam kehidupan kita ni,ade certain things that we do not know either it is worth conducting it or not.In fact,as a woman myself I agree with the statement made by some researcher of whatsoever yang mengatakan perempuan ni pandang ke depan tetapi bermacam2 jalan,sedangkan lelaki pandang ke depan tapi cuma guna satu jalan yg lurus tanpa berbelit2.I agree with that statement.Bila I reflect upon myself,banyak menda dlm idup I ni yang I nampak berbelit2.so,I pon selalu fikir berbelit2,menda remeh temeh pon I fikir,sedangkan menda tu bukan lah satu masalah besar.Tapi for my partner dia akan nampak menda tu secara logik,long term and rational.That is why,bila I decide something yg agak irrational,dia tak terus membantah atau memotong cakap I sebaliknya dia akan diam terlebih dahulu.Diam pon tak lama,cuma sekadar nak bagi I peluang utk reflect upon my words and decision.Rasionalnya disini ialah kerana,kalau I decide something yang tak berapa nak bagus,and dia pulak terus bantah dan menolak,what would happen at the end of the day?There would be no solidarity rite??sebab tu,silent is the best way to stop any misconfusion or misundertsanding but just for a while ..As if you take a long period of time it would also harm the relationship.Now,I faham berdiam diri itu sangat bagus daripada menyuarakan apa2 ketidakpuasan hati yang akhirnya akan memakan diri kita.