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Thursday, March 12, 2009

The Power of silent..

Most probably people would think that silent is the best way to stop any argument.I do agree with such a confession.But anyhow,is there any other benefits of silent?Many people claim that laughter is the best medicine,but for me,I strongly believe that silent is the best medicine.I would, of course, look positively towards the best medicine of laughter,but somehow or rather if we shut our mouth and start thinking,it would be rather great.Actually,based on my observation,I see lot of successful person yg berjaya atasi segala masalah yg dihadapi dgn sikap dia yang lebih prefer diam daripada meneruskan kata2 yang sampai bila pon tak abis2.As for me,I pon baru sedar kebaikan berdiam diri ni bila I observe one of my closest person in my life,and I found that he is such a rational and logical type of person.Having said that,every time dia tak setuju apa2 dgn I dia akan terlebih dahulu berdiam diri,keep silent and give me some time to reflect upon my action and words.
At first,I rasa tak setuju dgn perbuatan dia,because I think that sikap dia akan membuatkan I rasa lebih marah because there is no response towards my conversation with him(whenever there is a misunderstanding.But then,I start thinking,why do this person acted this way is because,he knows better than me.To put in the simplest way,let me tell you guys,sometimes dalam kehidupan kita ni,ade certain things that we do not know either it is worth conducting it or not.In fact,as a woman myself I agree with the statement made by some researcher of whatsoever yang mengatakan perempuan ni pandang ke depan tetapi bermacam2 jalan,sedangkan lelaki pandang ke depan tapi cuma guna satu jalan yg lurus tanpa berbelit2.I agree with that statement.Bila I reflect upon myself,banyak menda dlm idup I ni yang I nampak berbelit2.so,I pon selalu fikir berbelit2,menda remeh temeh pon I fikir,sedangkan menda tu bukan lah satu masalah besar.Tapi for my partner dia akan nampak menda tu secara logik,long term and rational.That is why,bila I decide something yg agak irrational,dia tak terus membantah atau memotong cakap I sebaliknya dia akan diam terlebih dahulu.Diam pon tak lama,cuma sekadar nak bagi I peluang utk reflect upon my words and decision.Rasionalnya disini ialah kerana,kalau I decide something yang tak berapa nak bagus,and dia pulak terus bantah dan menolak,what would happen at the end of the day?There would be no solidarity rite??sebab tu,silent is the best way to stop any misconfusion or misundertsanding but just for a while ..As if you take a long period of time it would also harm the relationship.Now,I faham berdiam diri itu sangat bagus daripada menyuarakan apa2 ketidakpuasan hati yang akhirnya akan memakan diri kita.